The experience you have will vary depending on which accounts your server has noticed.
I did join in last year and (from what my server could see) it was mostly people talking about positive everyday things, it was very fun and constructive.
Obviously you had a different experience, but the Join In tag isn't specifically intended for tales of woe.
A way to avoid this variation is to follow the group rather than hashtag, as the group will be identical on any server.
@FediFollows @TyrionTargaryen I'd say that most were upbeat, but there was certainly a lot of pity partying going on, too. We all have shit to deal with in our own lives and the last thing I need to see is someone else's.
People deal with loneliness in different ways, I don't think it's useful to vilify any particular approach. Join In is meant to be as inclusive as possible.
I'm sure you didn't mean it like this, but some people might interpret phrases like "we all have shit do deal with" and "pity partying" as shaming them into keeping quiet.
(Again, I'm sure you didn't mean it that way, I'm just saying it may sound like shaming, especially if someone is having a tough time.)
