读过《Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother》 🌕🌕🌕🌑🌑
之前听她访谈说人们都曲解丑化她,于是想看看到底是怎样,结果直到最后一章前都内心默念真心是一个可怕的妈呀,口口声声为女儿好全是为了自己好啊,纯是控制欲过剩,“移民”概念过强走向了另一个极端,始终怀着“我的女儿必须优秀”的执念。结果最后章突然女儿们表示其实是感谢她的,也接受各种“拔苗助长”式教育带来的“成功”,她之前的反思就不了了之了?还是觉得这样的教育环境对孩子成长怎么可能有利呢,必须心理阴影啊。这本书的优点在,非常坦诚,我相信她是真的觉得所谓“中国式”教育特别有效,西式教育特别不负责任,根本原因还是在于对“成功”的定义不同。于我,一个没有玩伴没有课外活动即使外出度假也必须苦练乐器的童年怎么也不敢认为是“成功的”,以至于看到后来lulu的反抗特别认同。姑娘们还未成年,且看吧。
Book
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
Douban
Amy Chua
publishing house:
Penguin Press HC, The
2011
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An awe-inspiring, often hilarious, and unerringly honest story of one mother's exercise in extreme parenting, revealing the rewards-and the costs-of raising her children the Chinese way.
All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. What Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother reveals is that the Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that. Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions and providing a nurturing environment. The Chinese believe that the best way to protect your children is by preparing them for the future and arming them with skills, strong work habits, and inner confidence. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother chronicles Chua's iron-willed decision to raise her daughters, Sophia and Lulu, her way-the Chinese way-and the remarkable results her choice inspires.
Here are some things Amy Chua would never allow her daughters to do:
have a playdate
be in a school play
complain about not being in a school play
not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama
play any instrument other than the piano or violin
not play the piano or violin
The truth is Lulu and Sophia would never have had time for a playdate. They were too busy practicing their instruments (two to three hours a day and double sessions on the weekend) and perfecting their Mandarin.
Of course no one is perfect, including Chua herself. Witness this scene:
"According to Sophia, here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing:
1. Oh my God, you're just getting worse and worse.
2. I'm going to count to three, then I want musicality.
3. If the next time's not PERFECT, I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and burn them!"
But Chua demands as much of herself as she does of her daughters. And in her sacrifices-the exacting attention spent studying her daughters' performances, the office hours lost shuttling the girls to lessons-the depth of her love for her children becomes clear. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is an eye-opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western parenting- and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one another.
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