finished reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents 🌕🌕🌕🌗🌑
I think there's a certain audience for which this book is very much necessary, and I hope this audience comes across this book and make good use of it, because there's much to gain. It's specially important and useful for those who had, still have, or are still at risk of developing toxic relationships with loved ones. A big part of the book is built upon this theory of internal/external pathways to dealing with emotional hurdles, and this is a model most compatible with relationships that are closer to one of victim and aggressor.

For readers that have more nuanced relationships, I think this book still offers some nuggets of wisdom and a lot of food for thought, but not as much is applicable. It's still possible to try and re-shape internalizer/externalizer to apply it situationally instead of categorically, but then we're back again to just trying to learn how to be reasonable people, and the framing of the book becomes a distraction instead of an asset.