A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be
Dr. Becky Kennedy
Overview
INSTANT #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
An Instant Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and Indie Bestseller
"This book is for any parent who has ever struggled under the substantial weight of caregiving--which is to say, all of us. Good Inside is not only a wise and practical guide to raising resilient, emotionally healthy kids, it's also a supportive resource for overwhelmed parents who need more compassion and less stress. Dr. Becky is the smart, thoughtful, in-the-trenches parenting expert we've been waiting for "--Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space
Dr. Becky Kennedy, wildly popular parenting expert and creator of @drbeckyatgoodinside, shares her groundbreaking approach to raising kids and offers practical strategies for parenting in a way that feels good.
Over the past several years, Dr. Becky Kennedy--known to her followers as "Dr. Becky"--has been sparking a parenting revolution. Millions of parents, tired of following advice that either doesn't work or simply doesn't feel good, have embraced Dr. Becky's empowering and effective approach, a model that prioritizes connecting with our kids over correcting them.
Parents have long been sold a model of childrearing that simply doesn't work. From reward charts to time outs, many popular parenting approaches are based on shaping behavior, not raising humans. These techniques don't build the skills kids need for life, or account for their complex emotional needs. Add to that parents' complicated relationships with their own upbringings, and it's easy to see why so many caretakers feel lost, burned out, and worried they're failing their kids. In Good Inside, Dr. Becky shares her parenting philosophy, complete with actionable strategies, that will help parents move from uncertainty and self-blame to confidence and sturdy leadership.
Offering perspective-shifting parenting principles and troubleshooting for specific scenarios--including sibling rivalry, separation anxiety, tantrums, and more--Good Inside is a comprehensive resource for a generation of parents looking for a new way to raise their kids while still setting them up for a lifetime of self-regulation, confidence, and resilience.
contents
Table of Contents
Introduction ix
Part I Dr. Becky's Parenting Principles
Chapter 1 Good Inside 3
Chapter 2 Two Things Are True 13
Chapter 3 Know Your Job 27
Chapter 4 The Early Years Matter 39
Chapter 5 It's Not Too Late 51
Chapter 6 Resilience > Happiness 61
Chapter 7 Behavior Is a Window 71
Chapter 8 Reduce Shame, Increase Connection 85
Chapter 9 Tell the Truth 95
Chapter 10 Self-Care 105
Part II Building Connection and Addressing Behaviors
Chapter 11 Building Connection Capital 119
Chapter 12 Not Listening 141
Chapter 13 Emotional Tantrums 149
Chapter 14 Aggressive Tantrums (Hitting, Biting, Throwing) 157
Chapter 15 Sibling Rivalry 169
Chapter 16 Rudeness and Defiance 179
Chapter 17 Whining 187
Chapter 18 Lying 195
Chapter 19 Fears and Anxiety 203
Chapter 20 Hesitation and Shyness 211
Chapter 21 Frustration Intolerance 219
Chapter 22 Food and Eating Habits 227
Chapter 23 Consent 237
Chapter 24 Tears 245
Chapter 25 Building Confidence 251
Chapter 26 Perfectionism 259
Chapter 27 Separation Anxiety 267
Chapter 28 Sleep 275
Chapter 29 Kids Who Don't Like Talking About Feelings (Deeply Feeling Kids) 285
Conclusion 295
Acknowledgments 299
Index 305
