The Psychology of your 20’s - 479. Why you're not who you want to be (yet)
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Most of us have an idea of the person we would like to become - more confident, more successful, healthier, calmer, more disciplined. But where did that ideal come from? And is it actually ours? In this episode, we explore the psychology behind the real and ideal self, asking what happens when the person we are feels increasingly distant from the person we think we should be.
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We explore:
* Where the idea of the real and ideal self comes from
* The role of congruence for self-esteem and well-being
* How conditions of worth can disconnect us from what we truly want
* The difference between Rogers’ real/ideal self and Winnicott’s true/false self
* How to differentiate your ideal from your ought self
* How to identify goals to reflect your own values
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Our favourite sources:
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/jad.12111
https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0033-295X.94.3.319
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1740144518301396?via%3Dihub
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