This book teaches frustrated, stressed-out parents that selectively ignoring certain behaviors can actually inspire positive changes in their kids.
With all the whining, complaining, begging, and negotiating, parenting can seem more like a chore than a pleasure. Dr. Catherine Pearlman, syndicated columnist and one of America’s leading parenting experts, has a simple yet revolutionary solution: Ignore It!
Dr. Pearlman’s four-step process returns the joy to child rearing. Combining highly effective strategies with time-tested approaches, she teaches parents when to selectively look the other way to withdraw reinforcement for undesirable behaviors. Too often we find ourselves bargaining, debating, arguing and pleading with kids. Instead of improved behavior parents are ensuring that the behavior will not only continue but often get worse. When children receive no attention or reward for misbehavior, they realize their ways of acting are ineffective and cease doing it. Using proven strategies supported by research, this book shows parents how to:
- Avoid engaging in a power struggle
- Stop using attention as a reward for misbehavior
- Use effective behavior modification techniques to diminish and often eliminate problem behaviors
Overflowing with wisdom, tips, scenarios, frequently asked questions, and a lot of encouragement, Ignore It! is the parenting program that promises to return bliss to the lives of exasperated parents.

“I love the practical strategies and valuable insights from the hearts and lives of strong-willed kids.… You’ll defi nitely want to make this book part of your parenting library.”
—Dr. Kevin Leman, New York Times best-selling author of Have a New Kid by Friday

Turn Conflict into Cooperation

Many parents suspect their strong-willed child is deliberately trying to drive them crazy. Difficult to discipline and seemingly impossible to motivate, these children present unique, exhausting, and often-frustrating challenges to the those who love them.
But strong will is not a negative trait. These same children have firm convictions, high spirits, a sense of adventure—all the makings of a great adult. In this book you’ll discover how to channel that passion and determination in positive ways as you build a healthy relationship. Through insights gained from strong-willed people of all ages, you’ll…
· better understand how their minds really work.
· discover positive ways to motivate your strong-willed child.
· learn how to share control without compromising parental authority.
· apply key tactics to survive a meltdown.
· get practical tips for parents who disagree, blended families, and single parents.
Packed with immediately useful strategies to drastically reduce the level of tension in the home (or in the classroom), You Can’t Make Me shows how you can start today to build a stronger, more positive relationship with your strong-willed child.
Includes…
· Top Ten Tips for Bringing Out the Best in a Strong-Willed Child of Any Age
· A Strong-Willed Child Emergency Kit

养育是不控制孩子、也不懈怠自己
广告出版圈传奇夫妇的育儿手记
实现孩子自主生活、自主学习、
自主阅读、自主情感的基本教养法则
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☆ 两位作者是广告出版界的知名人士，有着良好教育背景。他们在出版圈摸爬滚打几十年，还曾两度创 业，养育出了一对非常独立自主的孩子。他们亲手写就的育儿心经 想必能给很多爸爸妈妈带来思考。
☆ 二胎大时代来临，很多父母对于如何抚养两个子女焦虑万分，择校学区房压力重重，到底养育孩子的初衷是为什么，这本书里作者夫妇的做法让我们停下追逐的脚步，犹如当头棒喝，反思教子之道。
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跨界广告文化出版圈和电商行业的传奇夫妇如何独立养育两子？丰富厚重的人生历练下对于当下的育儿思想有哪些碰撞的火花？夫妻共同撰写的育儿心经，以家庭为单位，用爸爸和妈妈双方的完整视角再现了对于种种教育问题二胎夫妇的沟通和实践。二胎时代来临，育儿焦虑弥漫，且看这两位高学历高智商高情商“三高夫妇”如何笑对岁月磨砺，静心抚养稚子成材。
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徐智明、高志宏夫妇的这本育儿经验谈，是一本不可多得的教科书。和很多抽象理论不同，这是他们十几年为人父母的经验之谈，尤其是其家庭教育的理念不同凡响——让孩子自主！
——杨东平，21世纪教育研究院院长 北京理工大学教育学院教授
父母是孩子的第一老师，当你把尊重与平等传递给孩子，孩子也会把这些传递给身边的人，让社会更和谐，更有温度——这是我读我的师弟徐智明与其夫人合著《育儿基本》的感受。同时我还想说：对孩子讲的，同样可以讲给成年人，或许我们这些成年人缺的东西太多了。
——刘宇辉，北京市教育委员会主任
智明、志宏夫妇在创业和管理企业的同时养育两个阳光、自立的儿子，智明和志宏的从容，家庭和事业的良好平衡一直是朋友中的家庭典范，今天夫妇二人把育儿经验写成书分享给大家，使我们看到了他们完整的育儿方法论体系，这是一本以 “家常话”的方式写就的“理性与责任”之书，既是一本如何养育儿童的书，也是一本教育我们如何做父母的佳作，特别向饱受育儿困惑的中国父母们推荐！
——张守礼，21世纪教育研究院理事、奕阳教育董事长
没见过这么气人的。明明自己又做企业又做投资，居然还有时间带孩子。那就带吧？居然还写了一本育儿书。呜呼！天下爸爸总说忙，老婆孩子守空房。时间没有钱来替，总有工作肩上扛。其实仔细想想，有多少因为懒惫，又有多少因为恐惧？谢谢老徐，给爸爸届挣了口气。
——王凯，“凯叔讲故事”创办人
对于很多人来说，做饭从来不是一件难事儿，只要带着对家，对家人的爱起步儿，假以时日，必将出手不凡。一对儿能开公司，把孩子养育好的人，现在又在头条号“一家人吃饭”分享做饭心得了，北大高材生都加入写菜谱的行列了，这是不给我留活路的节奏，还让我给他们的新书《育儿基本》写推荐语，哼。
——文怡，美食畅销书作家
认识徐智明高志宏夫妇快二十年，发现他们是终身学习的典范。做学生就双双入了北大；开龙之媒书店就成就了一代名店；做广告专业出版就进化为品牌和营销高手......我作为徐府家宴的常客，耳闻目睹他们的育儿经十几年，觉得他们夫妇切中我们这代人对于教育的痛楚希冀。因为孩子，新生我们。
——薛野，西西弗书店创办人、埃尔特教育董事CEO

爱默生曾经说过，我们为孩子的美丽和幸福感到极大的欢乐，这欢乐使我们的心灵博大到躯壳难以容纳的程度。是的，孩子的幸福快乐是父母共同的期待。而现实生活中，却往往事与愿违。
《父母极简法则》一书用简明的语言阐述了育儿过程中父母可能遇到的各种问题，父母可能会有的各种误区。例如，母乳喂养与奶粉喂养如何选择，自由的给予与纪律的设定如何平衡，期待的感恩与现实的埋怨如何面对，当下的事件与长远的目标如何协调，等等。作者提出的一条条法则看似简单，却给予了我们实用、扼要的指导，可以帮助我们轻松育儿，简单生活，将孩子培养成有教养、有担当、能自立、会生活的人。
无论你即将为人父母，还是已为人父母，无论你正在养育蹒跚学步的孩子，还是正在面对青春期叛逆的孩子，本书中的法则都将对你有所助益；作为祖父母，实践书中的法则也有利于你处理好三代人之间的关系，更好地面对自己，面对儿女，面对孙辈。

儿童每天使用词汇的86%~98%都与父母一致父母的每一句话，渐渐变成了孩子未来的模样
按照一年52周计算，在儿童4岁进入幼儿园小班之前，高知家庭和低收入家庭的孩子之间，就已经积累了高达3200万的词汇学习差异。在此基础上，低收入家庭孩子掌握的词汇量只有高知家庭孩子的1/2。
13~36个月的孩子平均每小时听到的语句
脑力劳动者家庭的孩子　　　　 487句话/小时
工人阶级家庭的孩子　　　　　　301句话/小时
接收福利救济家庭的孩子　　　 178句话/小时
3岁孩子累计听到的单词量
脑力劳动者家庭的孩子　　　　4500万个单词
接收福利救济家庭的孩子　　　1300万个单词
相差3200万单词！
3岁孩子掌握的词汇量
脑力劳动者家庭的孩子　　　　　1116个单词
接收福利救济家庭的孩子　　　　 525个单词
相差591个单词！
儿童出生后每秒钟能够产生700~1000条神经连接，父母的语言是刺激大脑发育的最好教育资源。3000万的词汇差距会极大影响儿童在数学概念、读写能力、自我管理、执行力、批判性思维、情商、创造力和毅力等方面的表现。
到三年级时，孩子之间会产生显著的“成绩差距”或“学术落差”（achievement　gap）。众多研究已经表明，儿童早期的语言环境能够预测其日后的学习能力和性格特征。
越贵的并不一定是越好的，神经科学专家告诉我们，最好的教育是免费的，它就存在于父母的每一个词，每一句话，每一次交谈和每一份互动里。希望所有翻开这本书的父母，都能够带给孩子无限的潜能和幸福的人生。

The founder and director of the Thirty Million Words Initiative, Professor Dana Suskind, explains why the most important—and astoundingly simple—thing you can do for your child’s future success in life is to talk to him or her, reveals the recent science behind this truth, and outlines precisely how parents can best put it into practice.
The research is in: Academic achievement begins on the first day of life with the first word said by a cooing mother just after delivery.
A study by researchers Betty Hart and Todd Risley in 1995 found that some children heard thirty million fewer words by their fourth birthdays than others. The children who heard more words were better prepared when they entered school. These same kids, when followed into third grade, had bigger vocabularies, were stronger readers, and got higher test scores. This disparity in learning is referred to as the achievement gap.
Professor Dana Suskind, MD, learned of this thirty million word gap in the course of her work as a cochlear implant surgeon at University of Chicago Medical School and began a new research program along with her sister-in-law, Beth Suskind, to find the best ways to bridge that gap. The Thirty Million Word Initiative has developed programs for parents to show the kind of parent-child communication that enables optimal neural development and has tested the programs in and around Chicago across demographic groups. They boil down to getting parents to follow the three Ts: Tune in to what your child is doing; Talk more to your child using lots of descriptive words; and Take turns with your child as you engage in conversation. Parents are shown how to make the words they serve up more enriching. For example, instead of telling a child, “Put your shoes on,” one might say instead, “It is time to go out. What do we have to do?” The lab's new five-year longitudinal research program has just received funding so they can further corroborate their results.
The neuroscience of brain plasticity is some of the most valuable and revolutionary medical science being done today. It enables us to think and do better. It is making a difference in the lives of both the old and young. If you care for children, this landmark book is essential reading.

What is my son doing behind his constantly closed door? What’s with his curt responses, impulsiveness, newfound obsession with gaming, and . . . that funky smell? As pediatrician and mother of two teenagers Cara Natterson explains, puberty starts in boys long before any visible signs appear, and that causes confusion about their changing temperaments for boys and parents alike. Often, they also grow quieter as they grow taller, which leads to less parent-child communication. But, as Natterson warns in Decoding Boys, we respect their increasing “need” for privacy, monosyllabic conversations, and alone time at their peril. Explaining how modern culture mixes badly with male adolescent biology, Natterson offers science, strategies, scripts, and tips for getting it right:
• recognizing the first signs of puberty and talking to our sons about the wide range of “normal” through the whole developmental process
• why teenagers make irrational decisions even though they look mature—and how to steer them toward better choices
• managing video game and screen time, including discussing the unrealistic and dangerous nature of pornography
• why boys need emotional and physical contact with parents—and how to give it in ways they’ll accept
• how to prepare boys to resist both old and new social pressures—drugs, alcohol, vaping, and sexting
• teaching consent and sensitivity in the #MeToo culture
Decoding Boys is a powerful and validating lifeline, a book that will help today’s parents keep their sons safe, healthy, and resilient, as well as ensure they will become emotionally secure young men.

父母与孩子之间的关系，对孩子一生有着深远的影响。然而，在很多家庭中，这种关系经常出问题，令人痛苦，甚至很难再回归正常。
这是一个从业20年的资深心理治疗师的畅销儿童心理学巨著，在英国掀起巨大轰动，全英家长热烈讨论，甚至没有孩子的人都迫不及待地买来，用于改善自己的人际关系。
这到底是一本什么样的书呢？简单一句话：它用育儿理论讲透了亲子关系，以及围绕着我们的家庭成员关系，所有人际关系，让我们更自在地活在关系里。这是一本关于“关系”的书——我们与孩子的关系，与自身的关系，与过去的关系，与周围世界的关系。
也许你是一位工作忙碌的父母，你的孩子仿佛从不入睡，总是在哭闹或尖叫，敲打平底锅，戳插座，喊着要更多的糖，看更多的电视。这些让你感到疲倦和绝望，很难保持冷静和理智。你是一位好家长，但还可以变得更好：菲利帕·佩里的这本畅销书，将帮你打开育儿的新视野。
与一般的“亲子教养书”不同，这本书并没有把养育孩子当作令人生畏的杂事。孩子不是一堆有待处理的麻烦，也不是一个需要精益求精的项目。育儿是一种关系，孩子是要被理解和支持的个体。归根结底，在孩子身上的投入，不仅会使他们以后成为更优秀的人，而且也会使你自己变得更好。
它的阅读体验并不轻松，正如作者所说，书里的内容会让你觉得很难受，很不舒服，甚至很生气，要牺牲你的自尊来阅读。因为它会让你直面自己在陪伴孩子的过程所犯下的种种错误。
任何父母都会为了孩子奉献自己，但美好的愿望也许不会带来理想的结果。父母的心愿就是让孩子幸福快乐，让他们过上美好的生活，但我们往往意识不到，自己是如何在无心之中伤害了孩子。
这本书会剖析我们在亲子教养方面犯下的错误，尤其是那些我们从来不想犯的错，这些错误的深层心理根源，以及有了过错之后我们如何弥补，修复裂痕。
这本书将帮你：
了解自己的成长经历如何影响了你的亲子教养方式。
看清亲子关系是如何变质的，以及如何让它恢复正常。
与孩子建立真正的联结，学会用心倾听，培养情绪稳定的孩子。
打破恶性循环，及时补救与修复裂痕，避免把你以前吃过的苦复制到孩子身上。
学会处理自己与孩子的感受，让孩子在和谐的关系中成长。
学习如何与婴儿、儿童、青少年和长大成人的孩子相处，让亲子关系变成孩子一生的力量之源。
这本书充满了睿智和明智的建议，是每个父母都想读的书，也是每个孩子都希望自己的父母拥有的书。

可能是有史以来实操性最强的家教书。
“如果你一生中只有一次机会读一本育儿书籍，我拍着光头担保，你选择这本，绝对不会后悔。”——凯叔（中国亲子故事第一平台【凯叔讲故事】创始人）
从22万个案例中，提炼出98个典型家庭教育问题。内容涵盖儿童的行为习惯、学习玩耍、人际交往、性教育、人格教育、家庭关系、心理成长等方方面面，堪称家庭教育问题的“百科全书”。
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第一本《好妈妈胜过 好老师》是写作者尹建莉如何培养自己的女儿， 本书则更注重对所有妈妈和儿童的实用性，涵盖儿童生活的方方面面，和具体的生活事件接轨，让家长可以将理念真正内化为自己的行动和意识——所有的妈妈，都能在本书中找到自己孩子对应的问题，并获得可以“拿来就用”的解决方案。
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叛逆 / 心理脆弱 / 学习拖延症 / “性早熟” / 二胎矛盾 / 吃喝拉撒睡 / 厌学 / 垃圾食品 / 隔代宠 / 不听话 / 坏习惯 / “洋”早教 / 坏朋友……
所有问题，都有答案！

本书是近年来难得一见的优秀的家庭教育原创作品，是教育专家尹建莉的教子手记，是一本还未上市就以“手抄本”流传的图书。
相比许多家教图书，这本书有以下特点：
第一，本书首次提出一些令人耳目一新的家庭教育原则，使父母在教育孩子的时候有章可循。
第二，书中给出许多简单而又实用的操作办法，理论和实践完美结合。使父母们不仅立刻获得许多有效的经验，教育意识也随之改善。它是实事求是谈家教的典范，是家长们最实用的工具书。
第三，本书不但告诉你怎么能提高孩子成绩，而且告诉你怎么教孩子做人，教你怎么培养一个自觉、自强、自立的孩子。

In Marc's Mission, New York Times-bestselling author Jocko Willink delivers a second powerful and empowering Way of the Warrior book about finding your inner strength and being the best you can be, even in the face of adversity.
In Way of the Warrior Kid, Marc went from wimp to warrior in one summer. He learned to be strong inside and out, mastered his multiplication tables, conquered his fear of swimming, and even made nice with the meanest kid on the playground (who turned out to be not so mean after all).
Now, in this second book in the middle-grade Warrior Kid series, Marc uses what he learned last summer to help another kid who needs a boost. Can he take the skills he learned from his Navy SEAL uncle Jake to instill the warrior spirit in someone who needs his help?

本书是尹建莉的第二部家庭教育著作，在内容方面和《好妈妈胜过好老师》并列。本书仍采用案例写作的手法，案例主角扩展为更多的孩子，展示了前一本书尚未涉及的另一部分儿童教育生活。本书最大的特点是紧贴当下教育现实，还原教育真相，让大家看到美好的教育并不复杂，有效的教育往往是朴素而简单的。作者依据经典教育学和心理学理论，以学者的严谨和妈妈的亲和，对大家面临的种种教育问题进行了深入而细致的解读，并指出教育面临的种种误区，同时为读者提供出许多可操作的方法。

本书提供脑科学的前沿知识、行为疗法的最新发现、来自数千名儿童和青少年的案例研究，以及读者立刻可以采取行动的具体建议，教你如何让孩子走上自律自控自主的成功道路。父母能为孩子做的事永远是有限的，在某些时候，孩子必须自主行动。如果孩子从小没有自我驱动力，他在日后的生活中可能被压力蚕食，面临更高水平的身心健康风险。本书会给父母所需的工具，帮助你的孩子自信地生活，找到自己的道路。

At a time when many boys are in crisis, a much-needed roadmap for helping boys grow into strong and compassionate menIn this groundbreaking book, a leading psychologist and researcher of the journey from boyhood to manhood reveals how narrow conceptions of what it means to be a "real boy" or "real man" are hurting boys and the vital role parents and educators can play in creating safety nets for boys. Over the past two decades there has been an explosion of new studies that have expanded our knowledge of how boys think and feel. Recently, the #MeToo movement has cast a spotlight on the question of how we can best raise boys to be respectful of women. In this book, Michael Reichert draws on his decades of research to challenge age-old conventions about how boys become men. Parents are increasingly anxious that their boys -- in an effort to be stoic and "man like" -- are shutting down. In this book Reichert explains how old paradigms about manhood may be impacting our boys and how parents, educators, and mentors can help boys develop socially and emotionally. How to Raise a Boy provides those who care for young boys and teenagers the latest insights from psychology and neuroscience to give us the tools we need to help build more self-aware, caring and compassionate men.