读过《The Optimistic Child》 🌕🌕🌕🌕🌕
2019年我读过了这本书的中文版。读英文版是复习。教出乐观的孩子,最好的就是家长本身乐观。身教的力量大于言传。如果家长和孩子都是悲观性格,这本书就重要了,它教你识别自己的悲观相仿,并通过一系列认知行为疗法(CBT)中的认知改变技术去改变人的悲观解释风格,从而积极的去面对生活中的挫折与失败,从中学习,而不是因为失败就陷入焦虑,恐慌,抑郁状态,甚至引发心理生理疾病。当然,悲观不是只有坏处,也有好处。有句话说,悲观者正确,乐观者成功。造成这种刻板印象的原因,大概是悲观者更少冒险,更少行动。悲观者变得乐观一些的意义,就在于使得悲观者面对失败时仍能行动,不仅仅成为智慧者,还要成为勇敢者。
Book
The Optimistic Child Douban
author:
Martin E. P. Seligman
publishing house:
Mariner Books
2007
- 9
In The Optimistic Child, Dr. Martin E. P. Seligman offers parents, teachers, and coaches a well-validated program to prevent depression in children. In a thirty-year study, Seligman and his colleagues discovered the link between pessimism -- dwelling on the most catastrophic cause of any setback -- and depression. Seligman shows adults how to teach children the skills of optimism that can help them combat depression, achieve more on the playing field and at school, and improve their physical health. As Seligman states in his new afterword for this edition, "Teaching children optimism is more, I realized, than just correcting pessimism . . . It is the creation of a positive strength, a sunny but solid future-mindedness that can be deployed throughout life -- not only to fight depression and to come back from failure, but also to be the foundation of success and vitality."