成长
好的家庭教育 Douban
author: 李笑来 publishing house: 广东经济出版社 2026 - 3
📖手把手带你低成本养出身体棒、心态好、会赚钱的孩子
📖本书探讨了家庭教育的本质、目标和方法,并为家长提供实用的指导。这套操作系统,可以用十个关键词来概括:
六个基础观念:尊重产权、崇尚生产、直面困境、决策担当、痴迷改进、健康第一。
三种状态:乐观 、简单、专注。
最终导向:发展。
六个基础观念做得好,孩子自然会变得乐观、简单、专注,并进一步导向无限循环的动作——发展。家庭教育的本质是一场无限游戏,关键是持续成长进步,而非阶段性胜负。做好这些就会发现:好的家庭教育,成本极低。
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【编辑推荐】
📖 家庭教育的对象首先应该是家长,其次才是孩子。家长指手画脚永远不如以身作则
父母对孩子的经济责任止步于生活必需,满足过多欲望只会培养出无能的继承者
谁承担后果,谁做决策。尽早养成孩子不抱怨、不后悔的人生态度
体力决定了脑力的上限!20岁前培养体能,可以支撑孩子一辈子的脑力发展
别再设计孩子的人生!定目标只适合短期执行,长期发展靠在对的方向无限迭代
好的家庭教育,成本极低,却让孩子受益终生
精装小开本,轻盈便携;双色印刷,重点高亮。更有实用精美周边随书附赠
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【读者评论】
专注的真相,思考的真相,财富的真相,定投改变命运,好的家庭教育……都相当厉害。每个概念都值得打磨一生,因为它们贯穿每个人的一生。 ——读者评论
这本书的核心目标是:在学习了之后,我们有机会、有可能选择正确、经济、高效的家庭教育系统。我们确切地知道没有任何系统是完美的,但我们可以保证这个系统会进步,会演化,它可以逐步改善,最终可以做到越来越好。 ——读者评论
July 29, 2026 read
家庭教育,并不偏指育儿;家庭原则,是家庭每个成员都要认的。家长是有责任育儿,也得自己先做到,才能要求孩子。

在家庭观念上,有钱人李笑来首先强调**产权**,私有财产不可侵犯。有钱人的传承难题,既不想孩子不劳而获的继承财产,又想把孩子培养成配得继承自己财产的样子。两相权衡,授之以鱼不如授之以渔,所以要**崇尚生产**,也就是想要钱,自己长本事自己赚。生活是一系列选择,要培养判断力,做出**决策并担当**后果。如果选择不当,陷入困境,就要**直面困境**,这是化困境为机遇的唯一办法。一生一定要找到至少一件自己愿意做一辈子的事,在上面**痴迷改进**,不断积累。而这一切的基础,是健康的身体,跑步,巴西柔术,多吃动物蛋白少吃碳水,**健康第一**。

这一切,是基于人是终身发展的。随时问“什么更重要”这个问题,是确定人生方向的重要动作。这个问题的答案,是可能随着现状的变化,而逐渐变化的,因此长期的计划和设计,是有可能落空的。目标适用于短期,方向适用于长期。

三个值得养成的心态。1. 乐观:永远鼓励他人,带给他人快乐。2. 简单:生活也好工作也好,把复杂问题简化,过简单的生活,解决简单的问题。永远问什么最重要,就能让一切简单下来。必须保持简单。3. 专注。专注状态,是屏蔽了外界之后的状态。要做到专注,需要尽量同时调动所有感官到要做的事情上去。调用一个感官,就屏蔽了一部分外界;调用所有感官,就把外界彻底屏蔽掉了。

“改善”或“精进”的原理,就是做事,得到反馈,根据反馈调整策略,再做,再得反馈,再调整在做……AI的底层算法贝叶斯定律,也是如此。行动的结果作为下一次行动的输入,这就是递归,递归造成认知策略的迭代,通过多次的迭代,行动者便实现进化。

说到最后,这书也不像是家庭教育了,完全可以拿来教育自己。然而,缺少如何做的环节,变成纯讲道理了。又有些没意思。
家庭教育 成长 育儿
LIT: Life Ignition Tools Douban
publishing house: William Morrow 2024 - 4
In an age of convenience and information overload, it’s easy to go through the motions, pressured, distracted, and seeking instant gratification rather than harnessing our potential for meaningful and impactful lives. In LIT, Jeff Karp, Ph.D., professor at Brigham and Women’s Hospital, Harvard Medical School, and biotech innovator, helps us look to nature as a vital source of humankind’s best wisdom, most inspired action, and greatest good. Diagnosed with learning differences at a young age, he persisted through nearly insurmountable struggles with support from his mom in developing ways to achieve hyper-awareness and maximize decisions based on his curiosity, passion, creativity, and connection to nature. He evolved these approaches into LIT (Life Ignition Tools) —and road-tested these tools daily in his own personal life and with his lab team to innovate medical discoveries inspired by the “problem solving” process they find throughout the natural world.
LIT teaches us to:
turn inward and connect with what is truly important to us
turn outward to act on that, connecting with others and different ways of knowing
question assumptions—break out of habitual thinking and other patterns to discover what really serves you best
explore, experiment, and discover fresh approaches to old challenges
Dr. Karp also shares insights from some of the world’s most accomplished people, including Nobel Prize winners, the founder of an Indigenous wellness center, a visionary photographer, a social justice activist, a five-time US memory champion, an Olympic medalist, and a neurosurgeon who founded a center for compassion, as well as professors, inventors, entrepreneurs, CEOs, and members of his laboratory.
Using Dr. Karp’s principles, anyone can redirect their lives with energy, focus, creativity, motivation, intention, and impact. Learning to be lit is the ultimate renewable energy and is accessible to everyone, anytime, wherever you are.
Sept. 16, 2025 read
书名LIT 是 Life Ignition Tools(人生启动工具)的首字母缩写,中文版将其翻译成觉照,个人觉得翻译得很好。

作者Jeff Karp,出生于加拿大。儿时被诊断为ADHD伴有学习障碍。现今50岁的他,受聘于哈佛,发表过170+学术论文,名下100多项发明专利,孵化创办12家生物科技公司,各种社会荣誉。他将自己学习职业生涯中对自己有帮助的学习工作方法,总结成12个“人生觉照工具”,在书中进行了分享。每一个方法的分享,他都借由自己和各行业中顶尖人物的经验,结合科学研究来说明。

ADHD的人,普遍的问题是容易被内外届的各种现象吸引,无法长时间专注一件事。Karp说自己开窍,是因为他问了老师一个问题,他的老师没有直接回答,而是反问他“你是怎么想的呢?”顺着这个问题,他发现自己一在不停的想。当他认清了自己是在思想着的时候,他忽然好像就能控制自己的思想了。在母亲与导师支持下,他逐步发展出“观察→提问→模仿→实验”的自然启发式流程,用于学习,问题解决,自我发现,精力管理,家庭关系。

他指出头脑习惯处于低能量状态,通常需要付出一些能量来激发和唤醒,它才能高效工作。可以通过简单的改变“Flip the Switch”来截断日常惯性,重置思维模式;通过自己的情绪来识别真正激励自己的意义与价值,让内在需求唤醒行动力;做一个“机会主义者”,主动出击,获取多样化经历。用好奇心提问,挖掘洞见;与他人链接,帮助他人,从他人那里获取帮助,点燃他人,形成共振;接受失败,在失败中学习。在生活中找到打断自己走神的契机,重建专注;激发创造性;从自然中学习。总结起来,就是向内探寻,向外行动,质疑假设,探索实验。

他不仅仅注重理性,同时重视身体的与灵性的发展。这套工具的核心,是自己主动寻找适合自己的目标,并按照自己的方式去实现他们。这个过程要一直伴随着内观,反思,复盘,总结,学习并应用新方法,观察效果。
成长
通往心灵自由之路 Douban
The Four Agreements
author: [墨] 堂·米格尔·路易兹 著 / 博集天卷 出品 translator: 刘勇军 publishing house: 湖南文艺出版社 2023 - 4
《通往心灵自由之路》是墨西哥作家堂·米格尔·路易兹及珍妮特·米尔斯所著的心理励志类畅销书。
书中提到每个人认知自己就像是照一面镜子,但镜子前常常有一层迷雾,要想驱散这层迷雾需要自己遵循以下四个约定:一是善用美好的语言,二是不受他人言行影响,三是不要妄加揣测,四是凡事尽力而为。这些来自墨西哥古老“托尔特克智慧”的约定,可以帮你活得更加满足、快乐和自由。
June 27, 2023 read
人生中值得追求的一个目标,就是消除迷糊和不确定性,获得一份清醒。

本书开篇,介绍了从迷雾之梦境觉醒的人看到的真相:人与宇宙合一,人人都是造物主。觉醒的人重生,进入清醒之梦境。

人的痛苦,来自于自己深信不疑的基于恐惧各种语言牢笼。不要相信头脑的自动评价,用美好正直的语言,去塑造自己吧。

不要在意他人对你的评判。只要你不相信,那就与你无关。不能控制别人怎么评价你,最好的应对:当那是空气。

你对别人言行的判断可能出错。莫自动相信自己的判断。与他人沟通,多问问题,确认真实,只对真相做反应。

你当然无法一步完美,但要尽力而为:付出全力,不留遗憾;承认自己的极限不超限做事,伤害自己。凡事尽力,无怨无悔,即能心灵自由。

用智慧认识真相,用公正对待自己和他人,用勇敢应对世界。 用爱滋养一切。
觉醒 成长
Good Will Hunting (1997)
Good Will Hunting
★ 8.5 (1598 ratings) director: 格斯·范桑特 actor: 马特·达蒙 / 罗宾·威廉姆斯 …
other title: 心灵捕手 / 骄阳似我(港) …
Headstrong yet aimless, Will Hunting has a genius-level IQ but chooses to work as a janitor at MIT. When he secretly solves highly difficult graduate-level math problems, his talents are discovered by Professor Gerald Lambeau, who decides to help the misguided youth reach his potential. When Will is arrested for attacking a police officer, Professor Lambeau makes a deal to get leniency for him if he gets court-ordered therapy. Eventually, therapist Dr. Sean Maguire helps Will confront the demons that are holding him back.
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants (2005)
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
★ 7.3 (203 ratings) director: 肯·卡皮斯 actor: Amber Tamblyn / 阿丽克西斯·布莱德尔 …
other title: 牛仔裤的夏天 / 牛仔裤的姐妹情谊 …
Four best friends (Tibby, Lena, Carmen & Bridget) who buy a mysterious pair of pants that fits each of them, despite their differing sizes, and makes whoever wears them feel fabulous. When faced with the prospect of spending their first summer apart, the pals decide they'll swap the pants so that each girl in turn can enjoy the magic.
The Breakfast Club (1985)
The Breakfast Club
★ 7.8 (294 ratings) director: 约翰·休斯 actor: 艾米利奥·艾斯特维兹 / 安东尼·迈克尔·豪尔 …
other title: 早餐俱乐部 / Breakfast Club …
Five high school students from different walks of life endure a Saturday detention under a power-hungry principal. The disparate group includes rebel John, princess Claire, outcast Allison, brainy Brian and Andrew, the jock. Each has a chance to tell his or her story, making the others see them a little differently -- and when the day ends, they question whether school will ever be the same.
The Perks of Being a Wallflower (2012)
The Perks of Being a Wallflower
★ 7.9 (792 ratings) director: 斯蒂芬·卓博斯基 actor: Logan Lerman / Emma Watson …
other title: 壁花少年 / 少年自读日记(港) …
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, 1991. High school freshman Charlie is a wallflower, always watching life from the sidelines, until two senior students, Sam and her stepbrother Patrick, become his mentors, helping him discover the joys of friendship, music and love.
获取精神力量的10种方法 Douban
author: 东尼·博赞 publishing house: 外语教研 2005 - 4
《思维导图:获取精神力量的10种方法》共包括十章,分别介绍了构成精神智能的十个方面。目的是为了使你:身体稳健,头脑清晰,灵魂有根,能量充沛,精神智能和生活得到持续改进,《获取精神力量的10种方法》还包括了思维导图。思维导图是作者一生致力开发的一种融合色彩和图像的学习工具。它们是非常有用的记忆线路图。通过它,你可以利用大脑最初使用的自然工作方式组织事实与思想。《思维导图:获取精神力量的10种方法》的各章都有思维导图的例子和说明。而且,每个思维导图都给出了增强你的精神智能的练习。本套思维导图丛书还包括以下内容:《大脑使用说明书》《唤醒创造天才的10种方法》《获取精神力量的10种方法》《激发身体潜能的10种方法》《提高语言职能的10种方法》。
海报:
晨間日記的奇蹟 Douban
★ 7.2 (15 ratings) author: 佐滕傅 translator: 郭欣怡 publishing house: 易富文化 2006 - 1
■《晨間日記的奇蹟》創造日本經濟再起飛的奇蹟!日本企業老闆、主管、專業經理人及白領階級人手一本。
由於《晨間日記的奇蹟》的出版,一項革命性習慣隨即在日本被廣泛地熱烈討論──「創造奇蹟的晨間3分鐘」。日本很多著名的企業顧問、大富豪、國際演員、公司董事長等成功的人士們,都開始利用「早上」這個絕佳的時段,來進行一項「不可思議的行為」。

■日本第一名的暢銷書。日本亞馬遜網路書店、三省堂書店、紀伊國屋書店第一名暢銷書。
《晨間日記的奇蹟》一出版即登上日本各書店的排行榜上,且獲得日本亞馬遜網站書店五顆星的評價,目前仍在日本持續熱賣中,尤其是在即將跨年的歲末時刻,很多人都把《晨間日記奇蹟》當成來年的新希望。

七大作戰法讓你不會三天打漁、兩天曬網
養成一個習慣看似容易,實際執行起來卻並不容易,《晨間日記的奇蹟》提出三大原則:早上不要花三分鐘以上的時間、先決定書寫的地點、寫一個字也沒關係,以及七大作戰法,幫助讀者輕鬆度過習慣養成的「考驗期」。
少有人走的路 Douban Goodreads
The Road Less Traveled
★ 8.0 (250 ratings) author: [美国] 斯科特·派克 translator: 于海生 publishing house: 吉林文史出版社 2007 - 1
这本书处处透露出沟通与理解的意味,它跨越时代限制,帮助我们探索爱的本质,引导我们过上崭新,宁静而丰富的生活;它帮助我们学习爱,也学习独立;它教诲我们成为更称职的、更有理解心的父母。归根到底,它告诉我们怎样找到真正的自我。
正如开篇所言:人生苦难重重。M·斯科特·派克让我们更加清楚:人生是一场艰辛之旅,心智成熟的旅程相当漫长。但是,他没有让我们感到恐惧,相反,他带领我们去经历一系列艰难乃至痛苦的转变,最终达到自我认知的更高境界。
内向者优势 Douban Goodreads
The Introvert Advantage
★ 7.5 (33 ratings) author: Marti Olsen Laney translator: 杨秀君 publishing house: 华东师范大学出版社 2008 - 1
如果事情太多,您就会变得头昏脑涨吗?您需要独处而恢复充沛的精力吗?在会议中,您需要别人询问才谈及自己的看法和主张吗?您倾向于注意到别人容易忽略的细节吗?您所推崇的庆祝方式是少数几个人的聚会,而不是大型的宴会吗?您经常感到自己像一只周围全是“野兔”的“乌龟”吗? 那好,您是一个性格内向的人。但更令我们喜出望外的是,通过对“性格内向的人”的内在的优势和独特性的深入探讨,《内向者优势》一书为性格内向的人以及那些深爱他们的性格外向的人指明,如何利用(而不是对抗 )他们的个性来创造并享受美好的生活。书中内容涉及婚姻关系、为人父母 ——包括养育性格内向的孩子、社交活动和工作,书中有应对的策略、管理精力的策略及几百条很有价值的技巧。该书不仅有助于您在外向的世界里很好地生存,而且有助于您获得真正的成功。
First Things First Douban
1994 - 4
The authors of this book apply insights from their previous book, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", to the daily problems of people who must struggle with the demands of work and home life. Rather than focusing on time and change, the book emphasizes relationships and results.
把时间当作朋友 Douban Goodreads
★ 8.2 (159 ratings) author: 李笑来 publishing house: 电子工业出版社 2009 - 6
这本书从心智成长的角度来谈时间管理,指出时间管理是成功的关键所在。作者引述自己从事的职业中所遇到的事例,告诉我们:如何打开心智,如何运用心智来和时间做朋友,如何理解时间管理的意义,在时间管理上取得突破,进而用心智开启自己的人生成功之旅。
The Anatomy of Peace Douban
author: Arbinger Institute publishing house: Berrett-Koehler Publishers 2008 - 5
Have you ever felt like you couldn't shake your anger, or your bitterness, or your anxiety? Or have you ever felt that others make you miserable - that despite your best efforts to make things work, people at home or work seem committed to undercutting your happiness or your success? Or perhaps you have noticed this same pattern on the news and in world events - warring groups so adamantly entrenched in their positions, that peace becomes seemingly impossible."The Anatomy of Peace" shows how we are often mistaken in our views of others and ourselves, and how we therefore often misread the cause of problems and fail to see how our situations can be improved. It shows how we tend to incorrectly project blame onto external circumstances or onto other people, instead of looking inward and confronting the true source of our conflicts. Our hope for peace, both internal and external, depends most on our ability to overcome the war that has come to afflict our own hearts. Only by fostering a personal, inner peace can we find ways to resolve the conflicts and overcome the problems that are troubling our homes, our workplaces, or our communities. "The Anatomy of Peace" is an exploration of war, wherever it is found, and peace, wherever it is hoped for - in our personal relationships, our workplaces, our communities, or the world. "The Anatomy of Peace" shows how we can be freed from the fears, resentments, and conflicts that hold us captive.
April 21, 2011 read
这本书值得再三阅读。
思维 成长
Eat, Pray, Love Douban
author: [美国] Elizabeth Gilbert publishing house: Viking Adult 2006 - 2
A celebrated writers irresistible, candid, and eloquent account of her pursuit of worldly pleasure, spiritual devotion, and what she really wanted out of life
Around the time Elizabeth Gilbert turned thirty, she went through an early-onslaught midlife crisis. She had everything an educated, ambitious American woman was supposed to wanta husband, a house, a successful career. But instead of feeling happy and fulfilled, she was consumed with panic, grief, and confusion. She went through a divorce, a crushing depression, another failed love, and the eradication of everything she ever thought she was supposed to be.
To recover from all this, Gilbert took a radical step. In order to give herself the time and space to find out who she really was and what she really wanted, she got rid of her belongings, quit her job, and undertook a yearlong journey around the worldall alone. Eat, Pray, Love is the absorbing chronicle of that year. Her aim was to visit three places where she could examine one aspect of her own nature set against the backdrop of a culture that has traditionally done that one thing very well. In Rome, she studied the art of pleasure, learning to speak Italian and gaining the twenty-three happiest pounds of her life. India was for the art of devotion, and with the help of a native guru and a surprisingly wise cowboy from Texas, she embarked on four uninterrupted months of spiritual exploration. In Bali, she studied the art of balance between worldly enjoyment and divine transcendence. She became the pupil of an elderly medicine man and also fell in love the best wayunexpectedly.
An intensely articulate and moving memoir of self-discovery, Eat, Pray, Love is about what can happen when you claim responsibility for your own contentment and stop trying to live in imitation of societys ideals. It is certain to touch anyone who has ever woken up to the unrelenting need for change.
Fathers and Sons Douban
author: \Esquire Magazine\"" 2010 - 5
0in 0in 0pt"> No relationship has more power than the one between a father and a sonwhether for good or illthat relationship molds a man.” David Granger, Editor-in-Chief, EsquireFrom Esquire , which has always showcased the world’s finest writers, comes a stunning collection of often moving essays about fatherhood. Compelling and eloquent, these are some of the magazine’s most emotionally powerful pieces, as eleven award-winning and notable authors reflect on manhood through memories of their own fathers and their personal experience of raising sons. The collection covers everything from birth to death, from the thrilling and terrifying hours Daniel Voll spent in the delivery room during his wife’s long labor to Jake La Motta’s heartbreaking piece about losing his two sons to David Sedaris’s sidesplitting portrait at his fathera food hoarder who once took a bite of his own hat. Includes: Tom Chiarella ’s journey with his two sons to meet Xbox’s most famous Halo gamer and his posseHumorist Larry Doyle on the fearsome babyproofer” who inspected his house for death trapsand found them everywhere Tom Junod ’s gradual realization that his father’s lessons on how to dress like a man were really lessons on life Scott Raab on the lifelong struggle with his tough-guy dad Ron Reagan on his bittersweet victory in a swimming race against his father John Richardson on his father’s controversial career as a covert CIA operative Martha Sherill on her father’s life as a swinging bachelor and the former girlfriends that surface after his deathA loving essay from Alec Wilkinson about raising a child with special needs
June 20, 2017 read
父亲写儿子,写出生。儿子写父亲,写生平写死亡。唤醒自己于父亲的关系。父亲节读物。
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30岁前的每一天 Douban
水湄物语
★ 6.3 (35 ratings) author: 水湄物语 publishing house: 中国商业出版社 2012
梦想,是专属于青春的烂漫色彩,倘若在30岁之前不能实现它,随岁月尘封,只剩唏嘘。
你离30岁还有多久,有哪些事情,30岁前不做一定会后悔呢?
这本书是豆瓣红人水湄物语的首部作品。
写给年轻人的,最现实的梦想管理指南:知道自己最想要的是什么,变得有钱,变得有时间,有对幸福感知力。
“自我规划”+“理财投资入门”+“记事本的时间管理”是这本书提供给我们的有效方法。激情加技巧,聚集正能量,打败梦想道路上的小怪兽。
在30岁以前,改变自己,养成好习惯,每天离梦想近一点。在30岁以后,过上你想要的生活,或许你还可以影响别人,改变世界。